Another great TEDx talk we’d like to share with our readers. This one is by a resilience expert it turned out to be an essential survival skill for i.e. someone who’d studied the academic theory, done applied research in the US and New Zealand, used it to help others through struggles, and also applied it in her own life. In her words: “I’d done the research. I had the tools... How useful [would] they would be to me now in the face of such an enormous mountain to climb?”
Dr Lucy Hone, in a touching, powerful and personal talk, shares three strategies which helped her through unthinkable tragedy, and can help all of us face our own challenges. Struggle is part of life and completely normal, says Lucy, and being vulnerable and not always perfect is absolutely part of being resilient. She reiterates that there are ways of thinking and acting that we know boost resilience.
While she references diverse aspects of life at the start of her talk, such as loss, heartbreak, divorce, infidelity, natural disasters like earthquakes or tsunamis, being bullied or made redundant, miscarriage, infertility, mental illness, dementia, and physical impairment, resilience and wellbeing can also help with general career-related struggles and even with managing change.
See Lucy’s other videos on YouTube for more on her experiences, work and philosophies. She is a codirector at the New Zealand Institute of Wellbeing and Resilience, and a research associate at AUT University in Auckland.
Wellbeing is about the balance between your physical, intellectual, social and psychological resources and the challenges you’re up against.”
Read more below to see why we need resilience (including to try new things and learn), explore Lucy’s suggestions for dealing with adversity and change, and watch her TEDx Christchurch talk.
One of the aspects we help our proteges keep track of on the Protagion platform is their career fulfilment. We ask about it initially as part of their self-directed Journey of Self-Discovery (designed to support them to think about their goals and desired future, and their route so far), and then also remind them in their Protagion diary to update their career fulfilment score over time. It ranges from zero to ten, with zero being the extreme of “completely not fulfilled, dreading work every day” and ten being the other extreme of “ecstatic, dreaming of bounding & skipping to work”.
Based on discussion with one of our mentors, we’ve done further thinking on the dimensions of career fulfilment i.e. what contributes to our fulfilment at work. There are three key elements:
While these are naturally affected by the working environment we’re in (including our boss and colleagues), we also have an influence over them personally, both through our attitude as well as our willingness to put ourselves forward for new challenges. In addition, great mentors or coaches can help us to improve how supported, accomplished and/or satisfied we feel, independent of our current workplace, by helping us develop, pushing us forward, or giving us different perspectives.
Do you agree with these dimensions of career fulfilment: satisfaction, achievement/challenge, and support? And, are there any additional dimensions that form part of career fulfilment for you? We’d love to hear your thoughts.
Some of our proteges ask our mentors and especially our coaches about how to discover their sense of purpose i.e. the broader why which motivates them and which could offer more meaning if they align their work with it. Tara Mohr, author of Playing Big*, names our desires to contribute to the world 'callings', and says there are different types: community callings, career callings, and creative or vocational callings. She defines a calling as “an inner sense of longing or inspiration to fill a particular need in the world”.
We receive many callings over a lifetime. They begin and end. Often, we’ll be pursuing more than one calling at a given time…What callings are showing up in my life right now? And yet, while there is multiplicity and diversity across our callings, if you look at the many callings you’ve felt in your lifetime, you’ll see some threads and themes… The threads and themes that show up again and again in our diverse callings point us to our larger, lifelong callings.”
Read more to discover Tara’s calling driving her to create her Playing Big programme to inspire others to achieve their dreams, as well as explore ways to recognise our own callings, including some familiar to me in my passion for people development, and my yearning to found Protagion to help professionals actively manage our careers.